Rise Up Out of the Ashes of Your Past

14 Jun 2018

Relationships Should Be Your Focus

If I were to die today, what would I focus on?

I’ve been sitting here trying to think what I should share with you so I asked myself this question, “If I were to die today, what would I want to make sure to do?”

The very first thing that came to my mind was to make sure all of my family, friends and loved ones knew that I loved them. I would want to make sure that everyone I came in contact with knew how much I care about them finding true joy and happiness.

I would want to make sure my children knew the importance of believing in our Savior and I would share my testimony with them about how living a Christlike life will bring the greatest joy and happiness in this life.

The more I think about this question, the more I realize how valuable people and relationships are, NOT:

  • Things.
  • Money.
  • Toys, etc.

Got Me Thinking

If relations are so important, why is it the last thing we seem to focus on a daily basis? This realization brought to my awareness of how I need to make some changes in my life. I love my beautiful, amazing wife; my talented, intelligent children, have I let them know?

Unfortunately, I allow the less important things in life to get in the way of building and supporting these relationships sometimes. It’s important to have a career so that we can earn money to provide food and shelter; however, is it so critical that we put so much focus on it that we spend most of our time doing it?

To answer this question, I dare say NO!

Where are you putting your focus? What are your priorities, is it work, family, relationships, hobbies or some other pursuit?

This post is not meant to bring shame if your focus is on work or some other pursuit, it’s meant to bring awareness. If you are aware of where your time is spent, then you can consciously make the decisions to improve your life.

Let me be clear, you do NOT need to put all of your efforts into every relationship. You should cultivate it regularly but frankly, some relationships are exhausting.

You need balance giving you the time you need to recover from stress. The fact is, you may need to go for a run or work on a hobby. The point being, stay mindful and aware of what you’re doing make your decisions instead of just reacting to others.

Tony Rhoton – Life Mentor for Women • 801.787.5765



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