Parenting Responsibility or Children’s Responsibility?
Sometimes it can seem fuzzy about our responsibilities as a parent versus the child. What’s the responsibility of the parent or accountability of the child? You probably get a lot of advice from friends and family. You’re probably tired of it and especially don’t want to read or listen to another article or video; however, I feel we should never stop learning 🙂 In the video below, I answer the question about taking on responsibility.
I’ve frequently been asked questions regarding parenting. I don’t know why but I think it has something to do with the fact my children talk to me from toddler to adult. They are all phenomenal, respectful, hard working and probably the biggest reason, I have 7 children. Whatever the reason I’m asked these questions, I do feel like I’m a good parent.
Here’s my criteria for a good parent:
- Loves and supports, despite their choices.
- Encouraging despite your own personal feelings.
- Caring and watches over them.
- Does not hover and allows the child to make mistakes and grow from them.
- Maintains composure, no yelling, screaming at your children. (I don’t do this very much but I have yelled at my kids, especially if they were not respectful to my beautiful wife.)
- Never strikes in anger. (I don’t feel there’s anything wrong with a spanking, as long as it’s never done in anger.)
- Alway show increased love after any discipline.
- Says, “I love you.” I have met a lot of adults that say, “I wished my mom and dad told me they love me.”
- Laughs and cries with them.
- Listens to understand not to be understood.
- Says, “I’m sorry.”
- Manages their emotions.
I’m sure I’ve missed several other things that I feel are important to be a good parent and I will update this as I think of some. What are some things you do to let your children know that you love and care for them?