Improve Your Relationships
Improve Your Relationships; Change Your Mindset
Yesterday, I said good morning on this fabulous day, and the response I received back was, “Ugh, you call this a good day. It’s cold and snowing. I hate the snow.” I was caught off guard at first because of their pessimistic attitude, which got me thinking about our thoughts and attitude towards relationships and the importance of improving relationships.
You have relationships with things, experiences, people and places and your attitude determines what that relationship will be. I love the snow and how it makes the world seem pure and perfect. I love the cold because it gets rid of bugs that damage crops. The winter time brings peace and helps me focus on family because I don’t have the desire to go outside every night.
The cold and snow are the same; nothing has changed except the attitude I have towards it versus the response of the other individual.
As I continue to think about it, I realized that we need to be mindful of our thoughts and focus on the positive.
Focus on Positive
I’m not saying you put on rose-colored glasses and assume everything is fine; this is unhealthy and disconnected. I want you to focus on the positive attributes of the relationships. For instance, if you’re struggling with your spouse and they bring anger everytime you think of them; focus on what you like about your spouse. What is it that you love about them?
Another example could be you are in a job that you hate, instead of thinking how miserable and frustrating the situation is, take the time to identify what you like. You can focus on the fact that you get paid to work.
The more you focus on the positive, the more you stay in a constructive and building mentality, which helps you to accomplish what you want. If you’re pessimistic and remain frustrated, you close down. The more you close down, the more you shut down and disconnect, making you more frustrated and angrier.
Take the time today and write down one thing you like about the relationship you’re struggling with, read it before going to bed and wake up tomorrow and add another item you like; keep doing this for 30 days. By the end of the thirty days let me know what’s changed?
You’re amazing, believe it!