Happy and Positive
21 Ways on How to be Happy and Positive Today
Today is a wonderful day because I get to respond to the question I got last week, “How are you so happy and positive?” The more I thought about this question, I realized I needed to do some discovery.
I have to say, I’m not always happy and positive but I try to be at least 85 – 90% of the time. I make it a conscious effort to remain positive. It really is a conscious effort to remain in a positive state.
Here’s a list I thought of that help me remain in a happy and positive state, several are similar but that shows how the importance of that in my life.
I’m happy because of many reasons:
I make it deliberate to be happy. I make it a choice. I believe it’s your choice, not be in the state you’re in.
2) Regular Self Improvement
One of the most important things I do and you can do is improve yourself, focus on improving yourself. Find something you want to learn and go after that thing, like learning a new language, skill or talent.
3) Discovering How to Help Others
Some great advice I received a while ago was, “If you help enough others get what they want, you will get what you want.” I have found this so true. The more I can help you, the more energy I have in life.
4) Realize It’s Better to be Happy and Positive
The more I have discovered putting positive energy to something, the greater the results. When you remain positive in a situation, your body, and mind figure out the best solution.
5) Discover a Purpose
Purpose is a driving force behind remaining happy and positive in life. If you have a purpose, you have focus, determination, and direction. Having a purpose gives you a reason why to keep doing what you’re doing. Discover a purpose by completing the, ‘Best Year Ever’ exercise. What excites you?
6) Don’t Allow Anger to Control
This is a big one for me. I will lose my patience with my children at times and if I didn’t control my anger, I would do things that I would regret later. I take the time to process if what happened was worth getting upset over. I ask myself the question, “Did it really matter?”
7) Just Move On
It’s not worth giving somebody else your power and energy; they don’t deserve it.
8) Listen to Motivational Stuff Daily
The power of staying in a positive mental state is improved when you listen to motivational speakers or talks. Here are a few I highly recommend:
9) Avoid Negative News
Avoid the news like a plague. The news media is destructive; 9.99 times out of ten it is always negative. There’s enough we have to worry about; you don’t need to bring more negativity in your life. Avoid the News Media!
10) Mindful and Aware of Thoughts and Feelings
Stay mindful and aware of what your thoughts and feelings are so you can choose how you will respond. We can choose how we react and if we remain mindful of what’s going on we can choose emotions that will move us forward.
11) Continue Helping Others
If you stay focused on helping others, it minimizes your stresses and struggles. When you help others, there are chemicals, like, serotonin and dopamine that are released in the brain that help you be happy and remain positive.
12) Don’t Allow Things to Bother
Allowing things to bother you, only creates stress, anxiety, and frustration. A lot of times, you allow things to bother you that you have no control over, like the weather, the way someone acted or what was said. You have no control over these things so focus on the things you can have an effect on.
13) Worst Case Scenario
If you can break it down to the worst case scenario, a lot of times you realize the worst case scenario is not as bad as we make it out to be.
14) Have Fun in Life
The saying, “Time Flys When You’re Having Fun,” takes on a whole new meaning when you really are having fun. Do something spontaneous and fun.
What helps you rejuvenate and give you some energy? The need for self-care is tremendously underestimated. If you want to function at your peak, you must take care of yourself. What do you like to do to relax?
It is also very important to forgive yourself for things you may have done in the past, they will only keep you stuck.
16) Smile Game
No matter where you are at, try to get someone to smile, it will increase your joy and theirs. If you get to the point you are getting lots of smiles, step up your game and try to get them to laugh.
Count your blessings and be grateful for them. Be grateful for everything you have, are doing and for the blessings that are coming your way.
18) Intentional Being
Who do you want to be? Intentionally be and act like the person you want to be and don’t allow anyone to get in your way. You deserve to be the best you.
19) Bigger Purpose
Look for a much bigger purpose in life, don’t settle for status quo. You are amazing, discover your purpose and direction.
20) Look For the Opportunity
You will be thrown curve balls, challenges and many questions of why in life; look for the opportunity each of these challenges presents. Discover the joy in your journey.
21) Avoid Drama
Don’t worry about what other people think. Avoid the drama’s of life, they only create a headache, stress, anxiety and sometimes depression. Also, very important, don’t get tangled up in other people’s drama.
22) Don’t Get Offended
Discover the possibilities that exist when you don’t take offense to things. You deserve to be happy, allowing yourself to get offended, will only hold you back, forgive others and move on.
23) Don’t Hold Grudges
Grudges are poison and hold you back from the joys of life; realize things will happen that you don’t like, ignore it and keep going. Don’t give up on your dreams to hold a grudge because of something someone did. It’s not worth it!