Rise Up Out of the Ashes of Your Past

06 Mar 2018

Feeling Stuck

Feeling Stuck in Your Life – What Should You Do?

I remember achieving a goal that I had set a long time ago. This goal was huge and everyone told me:

Good luck on that one. Ha, ya, I said that too.

The negative voices were coming from all angles but I did not give up. I said I would achieve my goal in 5 years, well it took me ten years. The goal doesn’t matter it was what happened after the goal that stumped me until now.

I set a huge goal, a long-term, reach for the stars type of goal. Excited I shared it with everyone, but received negativity the entire time. When I accomplished it, I thought I had arrived. I had accomplished one of my biggest goals ever set.

Now don’t get me wrong, I was extremely excited and grateful but then I said, “Now what?” I finished my big goal now what?

What am I supposed to do now?

I didn’t really know. I didn’t have any other goals in the wings to work on. In a matter of minutes, I went from feeling elation to feeling lost.

I did not realize that my goal was the very thing that was pushing me. The goal was motivating me, inspiring me and as I worked on it, flooded me with excitement. It was gone, the goal was gone so what now.

The more I thought about it, the more I was extremely stuck where I was at. Life was just happening. There wasn’t any direction, there was no focus. The mundane life of waking up, going to work, coming home, eating and repeat started happening.

My finances were doing well but then DBSI, a real estate leader, committed fraud and the industry I was doing marketing for, folded overnight. When I mean folded, it literally collapsed overnight like a building that was being demolished.

Every phone call I answered was a client canceling a job. My coasting and being stuck really sank me. I didn’t know what to do. I would find a few clients here and there but my marketing firm was never got back to where it was.

I’m Glad

Fortunately, I’m glad that I was forced out of my marketing real estate niche and pushed into a new one, this one, helping people. I never realized how much I loved coaching and mentoring until I started helping people struggling with pornography addiction.

However, with all of that said, it is critical you don’t just sit back and let life happen. You need to take control of your life and design it how you want it. If you don’t, stuck is where you will remain.

Design Your Life

There are three four things to do to design your life and to get out of the stuck place you may be in.

  1. Let Go of the negative emotions that are holding you back. Learn more about how to do this, here.
  2. Power Build – after you let go, start empowering yourself. You are amazing and for you to start realizing it is critical.
  3. Write your, ‘Best Year Ever. You may be wondering what you want in life? This writing exercise will help you identify what you want so you can start to set goals to achieve them.
  4. Set Goals – Now that you know what you want this year to be like, start setting goals to accomplish those things.

You’re amazing, believe it!


Tony Rhoton – Life Coach, Life Mentor, Motivational Speaker 801.787.5765



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