Rise Up Out of the Ashes of Your Past

14 Mar 2019
facing your problems

Facing Problems

How do you face problems challenges and struggles?

Today I wanted to share with you my method of dealing with challenges and struggles that I face. When you implement this method of dealing with a challenge, you stay in creative reparative and healing mode.

The method of facing your challenges and struggles is with laughter and happiness; always looking for the lesson and value from the challenge. I know it seems counter-intuitive to laugh about a problem, but the rewards for this are much more significant.

Some of the rewards are:

  • You change the lives of those around you and influence them for long-term positive change.
  • Your body can heal itself better and faster because it avoids releasing too much damaging chemicals, like cortisol. (We need cortisol, but not in excess.)
  • The brain stays active and in creative solution thinking.
  • and so much more…

Brain Tumor – Sharing My daughter’s Story

My daughter had a brain tumor at age 14, which we found when she couldn’t remember her first dance she went too or the prior two weeks.

Waking up and not being able to remember anything is scary and especially for someone so young. My daughter couldn’t remember her sibling’s names but did know they were family somehow. However, she could not remember anything before that day and did not remember she had already eaten breakfast.

We immediately rushed her to the hospital, where she had a partial complex seizure. She had had them for quite a while, but we didn’t know that’s what they were. We thought she was a spacey teenager.

Reneé, my wife, was in the room when she had it, along with the doctors, so they pointed it out to her.

As a parent, I felt awful for not recognizing this sooner. I could go into self-defeat and beat myself up for being a lousy parent, but that would not help her or me.

Handling the struggle together.

The timeframe was around Halloween, so we were going to a party and decided to have fun with this situation, with my daughter’s full participation.

We came up with the idea to paint a jello mold brain to look like a real brain and put it on top of my daughters head. The costume made it look like she had an exposed brain. I went as the surgeon and my wife as a nurse. We got a lot of laughs but also several scowls. You can’t please everyone.

handling struggles

Together, we laughed, cried and laughed some more, but this is how we face problems. Approaching problems with laughter keeps your body healing.

The surgery went well but grew back four years later.

handling challenges

I could have gone into woes me; this sucks, I hate life mode or stay focused and remain positive and upbeat. You guessed it; we remained positive and upbeat.

Alia is an amazing girl and has always tried to stay positive, despite some of her hidden demons of depression, anxiety, and suicidality at times. I’m grateful for the tools and the things I’ve learned to help her along her journey.

Long story short, she had another surgery, the surgeon was a lot more aggressive and removed the amygdala and hippocampus. She’s doing well, and most importantly, to her, she’s driving.

Summation how to face problems and handle challenges and struggles

I’ve studied and read so many books on the bodies ability to heal itself, but it is always based on two things, remaining positive and happy. (it’s your choice) The more positive and happy you are, the better your body can fight any sickness, or face any challenge. Your brain can learn new behaviors that keep you focused on healing.

Look at the challenges and struggles you’re facing and start changing your viewpoint and be positive about it. Step back and look at the lessons learned and value from those lessons.

If you need additional help and support to accomplish your goals and manage your life, please contact me. As a life coach, I can help you live the life you want.

You’re amazing, believe it!



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