Stop! Focus on What You Can Control.

One of the critical components of life is to learn how to acknowledge what you can and cannot control. I have watched many women and men struggle and get frustrated with things in their life. The odd thing is that a lot of the stuff they people get frustrated over, they can’t control.

You see it all over social media where people are complaining about things and getting upset, for example, the President did this or that. The football player did this or that. When we see stuff like this and may consider getting involved in it we need to remember the four letter word, STOP!

We need to stop because you can’t control what someone else does. You cannot control what others say, but you can control how you will respond and what you will do. Today I want you to focus on four areas in your life so that you can start designing your life, instead of just reacting.


Get four sheets of paper and fold them in half, hamburger fold, top to bottom, giving you an 8.5 x 5.5 size. Unfold this paper and on the top of each sheet of paper write the word, ‘Can’ and below the fold write the word, ‘Cannot.’

The four areas you’re going to focus on is:

  1. Physical
  2. Emotional
  3. Behavioral
  4. Spiritual

Each sheet of paper will represent a separate focus. Make a list of things you can control and cannot control. After you have created your list for each area, notice where you are putting your time. If you’re like most people, you focus a lot on the things you cannot control, remember STOP!

You want to start focusing on the things that you can control, designing your life to be what you want not what others want. When you start creating your life, you’ll find excitement, focus, purpose, and hope.

You’re amazing, believe it!

Tony Rhoton, Intuitive Mentoring that Transforms


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