How You Can Actually Accomplish Your Goals
Why is it you set goals year after year but only accomplish a few of them, if any? Why do you set the same goal over and over, each year determined to achieve it but don’t?
I want you to look at your goal.
- What do you know about it?
- Have you studied it?
- Do you know the things you need to know to accomplish that goal?
There are many failure points, failure is good, if we fail forward and learn from what did not work. A lot of times our goals are so vague and generic that we set ourselves up to fail immediately.
Traditional Goal Setting
In the following paragraphs, I’m going to share an example of this. We are going to use the goal of weight loss since it is generally the number one goal set by the most people.
Generally, a goal is set like this:
- I’m going to lose weight this year.
- I’m going to lose 100 pounds.
- I’m going to fit into that outfit.
These examples are quite common so I’m going to break them down.
Goal number one is so vague and easily achieved. If I don’t drink a lot of water, I could easily lose weight so notice the error, the goal is not specific. This goal does not truly push me to be better and sets me up for failure because I can achieve it without having to really change anything. It does not set any expectation.
Goal number two is better because it’s specific about the weight I want to lose but it still is setting me up for failure because it tells me what I want to do, but I really don’t know how.
Goal number three helps me to be able to measure or see if I achieved a goal, but how?
Again all of these goals don’t benefit me as they are, I need to go beyond just setting them and now do some due diligence. I need to start researching the goal. First goal number one is of no value to me because it does not push me to be greater or to really achieve anything so this type of goal setting is useless so we won’t go any further with this goal.
Goal number two and three are good goals if I break them down.
1) If I’m going to lose 100 pounds I need to know where my body is at right now by:
- analyzing my habits. Am I doing things that are prohibiting me from losing 100 pounds?
- What types of things am I eating?
- Exercise am I currently doing?
- Am I sitting around?
- Are there foods in my house that does not help?
- Do I have the ability to lift weights, walk, swim, etc.?
2) After I have analyzed and I understand where my body is at, I need to discover what types of exercises are available, that I can do, based on my health right now. I need to determine what types of exercises will be best for what I’m trying to accomplish.
3) Who can I talk to that has lost this much weight before and I could learn some helpful hints, and if possible they could be a mentor/accountability partner. It’s not enough to set a goal and then try to accomplish it yourself, you need someone to be accountable too.
4) Commitment and action – In this stage of goals are where we can start to see our goals actualized. This is the time to set a specific days, hours, minutes to achieving them and then showing integrity and following this commitment.
Goals are set to motivate, inspire and help us to be greater than we currently are. Do not allow your goals to make you feel shame or that you are lacking worth because you did not accomplish them or did accomplish them. Realize goals are just that, a goal to improve yourself.
After you have accomplished a goal, reward yourself based on the level of accomplishment. If you lose 10 lbs, this is not enough towards accomplishing your goal. If you lose 10 pounds and you keep it off for several months, this is an accomplishment but is still not worth a huge reward so reward yourself accordingly.
Here are some ideas for rewarding yourself:
- rent a movie
- go to a movie theatre
- read a book
- take a bath
- get a massage
- go out to eat (a place the maintains your goal)
- go for a drive
- take a day off
Notice that these rewards are not based all based on buying something and they are all simple and small rewards. These are the types of rewards for losing 10 pounds. The reward needs to match the level of accomplishment.
Once you understand your goal and how to achieve it, you can accomplish it and you’ll find joy in the process.