Magnet for Communication
“I was like a magnet for people talking to me. Everywhere I went, even at work with people I didn’t know, they would start telling me their problems, challenges, and struggles.”
A saying he would hear regularly was,
“I don’t know why I’m telling you all of this but I feel like I can.”
“It made me feel fantastic. I had a purpose from a very early stage of life.”
“I would have girlfriends call me up and ask if they could talk. I would just listen to what they have to say and then speak. I rarely remember what I said, but they would always say, “Thank you. I needed that.”
From an early age in his life, Tony has always tried to help everyone he comes in contact with. Of course, he was still a boy and caused mischief or unfortunately would do some mean things. He remembers one instance where he teased a kid.
One Event That Changed His Life Forever
“I was 12-14 years old, and I remember playing basketball with this kid. He was a new kid, and I remember saying mean and hateful things. To this day, I wished I could remember that kid’s name and apologize directly to him. That experience, at a young age, has changed my life. I saw how it hurt him and vowed I would never intentionally hurt another individual.”
After this experience of being mean to the kid mentioned above, and making a resolve never to hurt another person, Tony was a magical force pulling people into his life. Tony continues,
“My family would come to me. Friends would come to me; strangers would even start telling me things. They looked for my guidance in helping to sort out problems. I guess I had a lot of wisdom for my age. I would listen, comfort and empower them. I would not judge them. I would encourage them by letting them know that I was there for them and they could always talk to me.
If you ask my older brothers though, I was a pain in the butt. I’m not perfect. :)”
He says with a laugh.
After graduating from college, Tony started working for Neways and then several design firms. In 2000, Tony started his marketing and design company. He based his business principles on promoting the company, not just a product.
He witnessed company after company succeeding, which helped him gain confidence and trust in what he was doing. Then in 2006, Tony was introduced to InnerGold, an organization that helped porn addicts.
He was approached by a friend to see if he would be willing to help InnerGold spread their message.
“I agreed to look at the company, and I said if I like it, I’ll help. If I don’t like it, I won’t. I looked it over and was blown away. The information that was in the manuals was something we all need, not just addicts. I was hooked. Immediately I started helping InnerGold become a brand worldwide. I watched people’s lives change, and I noticed a spark ignite within myself to help more and more people struggling with porn addiction.“
However, Tony’s path was not to stay there; his partnership dissolved and he opened up a new clinic, Utah Family Therapy, with a different business partner. Utah Family Therapy started out with helping teens and young men struggling with porn, and now it has grown into a systemic family healing approach. Utah Family Therapy uses group therapy to promote healing.
“I kept witnessing people finding tremendous healing, and the flame that ignited with InnerGold has become a raging furnace.
I love helping all of the people at Utah Family Therapy. I’m the behind the scenes guy, business and marketing strategiest. Occassionally, I will answer the phones too, and I love it. I help the individuals calling in on the phone, feel hope. I enjoyed answering the phones; however, I was not able to get the other things that I needed to do, done.”
After answering the phone and hearing how so many people want help but just couldn’t afford it, Tony decided he would start sharing the things he knew. He would help more people find hope and healing, so he started a Facebook group called, ‘You’re Amazing.’ His passion continues to grow, and that’s why he decided he would start mentoring women.
When asked why do you want to mentor women he said,
“If I can help the women I mentor find hope, value, and purpose in their life, this will help their family. As I mentor mothers, I have seen their entire family start to change. I believe this is a critical part to stopping teen suicides because women have a tremendous affect on those they interact with.”
Tony is continually looking for ways to help women find value, hope, and purpose in this world.
Tony helps women and youth by speaking at groups, coaching, mentoring or consulting. He looks forward to helping everyone he meets find hope and realize they are amazing. In his seminars, he shares actionable steps for improving life, while enjoying this incredible journey.
You’re amazing, believe it; I’ll show you how!
You will come away feeling hope for the future and actions knowing how.
Tony Rhoton, Life Mentor for Women • 801.787.5765